sudden realization
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>Even now, I’m not really into being a bride. What I want to be >is Dave’s wife; the bride thing is just something I’m doing to >get there. I’m thinking of the wedding as a great big party >we’re having to celebrate being together.
I see all these people fall in love all the time. I charge them money but but when they are in love I’m really jealous. Because there is not that amount that can replace that.
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And Baby Doll just suddenly realized that I have a date late tonight. Wish me luck – I met this guy on a chat line about six months ago. He’s a car salesman out of Sacramento. He’s horny as hell he tells me. I guess his wife is some fridged hussy so I’ll take it from here. Hugs n’ kisses – muah! Baby Doll – everybody’s sweetheart
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>I am happy for you. It is definitely an exciting time! It seems like >yesterday that I got engaged (12/24/99) and now the wedding is only 7 >months away.
[sound of static] "Hello Houston, we are at ‘T’ minus seven months and counting." [sound of more static]
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No, you aren’t. :) I staged a couple of weddings between my stuffed animals when I was a little girl (my plush saint bernard married, I kid you not, a plush stuffed oyster) but that was pretty much the last time I thought about it until DH and I started planning. I never really thought I’d get married, either (I had a few great honeymoons, though. <grin>) — maybe that is a contributing factor? And I don’t think you are weird at all. I had a great time at our wedding, but the very best part was saying the vows. And all of the next day. And every day since then. :) Donna – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – >Am I the only woman in the world who had never envisioned her wedding? >Honestly, most of my friends had started planning their "dream" wedding >when they were 6 years old. I never really thought about getting >married until maybe a year after I started dating my fiance, and never >even had a thought about the wedding until a month or so after we got >engaged. I never really thought I’d ever get married, so it’s really >all a surprise to me. >As for the wedding, it took me quite some time to actually begin >enjoying the preparations, and I still find it more of a hassle than a >joy to plan. I really just want to be married. I’m looking forward >more to being with the one person I’ve ever truly loved, than I am >walking down the aisle of the church in my dress. It’s not the pomp and >circumstance that I’m interested in as much as it is finally pledging my >life to that one person. I guess I’m weird like that! >shanihn
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I was such a tomboy I never thought about it. There were no "must haves" for me. I always figured I’d be getting married in Vegas in a white suit and a pill box hat. The coordinator we worked with said I was one of the least neurotic brides he had ever worked with because I was so flexible and didn’t have anything increibly specific that I was asking for. – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> > I was laying in bed last night contemplating various tablecloth > colors when > > it suddenly dawned on me… I’M GETTING MARRIED!!! I think I had a > hot > > flash! I’ve been so busy with all this planning that I think I lost > sight of > > what I’m actually doing it for. All of a sudden I actually realized > that all > > those pretend weddings I had when I was five and all the times I > fantasized > > about my wedding day when I was kid were going to become a reality! > I’m > > totally excited now and feeling even more in love. =o) > > Kim > You know, I’d envisioned my wedding dozens of times before it actually > happened. And what happened wasn’t exactly like my visions at all > (for one thing, way different church, parents deceased, etc), but > it was good in its own way. > The feelings that I expected to experience didn’t happen, but what > I did feel was just as wonderful. > And the nice thing is that that feeling of being "even more in love" > has just gotten way better over the years. > — > aMAZon > "It’s never too late to have a happy childhood." > Am I the only woman in the world who had never envisioned her wedding? > Honestly, most of my friends had started planning their "dream" wedding > when they were 6 years old. I never really thought about getting > married until maybe a year after I started dating my fiance, and never > even had a thought about the wedding until a month or so after we got > engaged. I never really thought I’d ever get married, so it’s really > all a surprise to me. > As for the wedding, it took me quite some time to actually begin > enjoying the preparations, and I still find it more of a hassle than a > joy to plan. I really just want to be married. I’m looking forward > more to being with the one person I’ve ever truly loved, than I am > walking down the aisle of the church in my dress. It’s not the pomp and > circumstance that I’m interested in as much as it is finally pledging my > life to that one person. I guess I’m weird like that! > shanihn
– Melissa http://photos.yahoo.com/malgaze
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> Am I the only woman in the world who had never envisioned her wedding?
Nope. I never imagined myself in a wedding, as a child or as an adult. I never played bride, and I always thought it was a little weird when a college roommate would describe her future wedding dress in great detail when she wasn’t even engaged. Even now, I’m not really into being a bride. What I want to be is Dave’s wife; the bride thing is just something I’m doing to get there. I’m thinking of the wedding as a great big party we’re having to celebrate being together. — Melissa to Dave on 04/29/2001
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– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> Am I the only woman in the world who had never envisioned her wedding? > Honestly, most of my friends had started planning their "dream" > wedding > when they were 6 years old. I never really thought about getting > married until maybe a year after I started dating my fiance, and never > even had a thought about the wedding until a month or so after we got > engaged. I never really thought I’d ever get married, so it’s really > all a surprise to me. > I never dreamed of my wedding when I was 6 (or 16 for that matter). > Perhaps it helped that before college I’d only been to 2 weddings in my > life–most of my cousins on both parent’s sides are younger than I am, > so there weren’t a lot of family weddings to attend. I started looking > at wedding stuff way before we got engaged–probably after we’d been > dating about 3 years or so–about the time I was absolutely certain > that I wanted to marry FH….the engagement waited another 2 years for > FH to be absolutely certain of the same thing 
> One of my good friends from college got married between our sophmore > and junior years, and I was one of her bridesmaids. That was my first > realization that getting married meant planning a wedding and picking > out dresses and all that. Yes, I realize that you can be married > without all that, but it’s fun and I probably won’t get the chance to > thow a big "ball" again (till perhaps I have a HF daughter getting > married?). > I started seriously looking into all kinds of wedding stuff about a > year before we actually got engaged. I realized before that that I(we) > would probably have to pay for all of the wedding ourselves, so I > started looking into the costs of things. Some of my friends who were > planning weddings were quite open about sharing costs (some completely > unprompted, which was interesting…). Not long after I started my > first "real" job, I started stashing away money to pay for the wedding > and/or a house. > I don’t think I’ve lost site of the impending marriage in the midst of > the wedding planning. The fact that we’re going to be husband and wife > just feels right–like when I put on "the dress" for the first time. > It doesn’t feel unreal at all–in fact, I’m quite impatient for July to > be here already I feel like this planning’s gone on forever (1 year > 4 months by the day of the wedding), and I’m ready to be walking down > the aisle instead of picking a florist. > I’m starting to really envy my little sister and her "elopement" to the > county courthouse (wearing a blue sundress, with a friend along as the > photographer/witness), and no fuss, muss, matching colors or anythign > Of course, she missed out on having the big party. It’s more important > to us to have familiy and friends around us, and we really enjoy > parties and dances, so the "big wedding" was definitely the way to go. > If only I’d been able to talk FH into an October 2000 wedding (6 months > instead of 1+ years)…. > twinkle to ms 7/7/2001
I want the party, I just don’t want to plan it! (Oh, I’m so lazy!) My roommate in college was getting married, and hearing her plan her wedding just drove me nuts. By the time I graduated, I was thinking, "Who cares if you have the chicken or the beef??" Also, I was a bridesmaid in my brother’s wedding 3+ years ago. It was terribly formal, with 7 bridesmaids, and a formal sit-down dinner reception at the country club. That was my entire experience with a "wedding", and it was horrifying. I’ve always been sort of a "free spirit". My best friend says that she always envisioned me getting married barefoot on the beach with a magnolia in my hair, and some long-haired guy strumming "Tupelo Honey" on a guitar. I think that would be sublime, but compromises must be made, and so far things are turning out just lovely. shanihn
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I was laying in bed last night contemplating various tablecloth colors when it suddenly dawned on me… I’M GETTING MARRIED!!! I think I had a hot flash! I’ve been so busy with all this planning that I think I lost sight of what I’m actually doing it for. All of a sudden I actually realized that all those pretend weddings I had when I was five and all the times I fantasized about my wedding day when I was kid were going to become a reality! I’m totally excited now and feeling even more in love. =o) Kim
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Kim~ Isn’t it exciting. I caught myself doing the exact same thing a few days ago. It all still seems so unreal, but when I am enjoying those few moments of quiet time it really hits me. And even though things are crazy, and hectic, and often times frustrating, it is all so exciting! I can’t wait! Carrie to Dan April 7, 2001
– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> I was laying in bed last night contemplating various tablecloth colors when > it suddenly dawned on me… I’M GETTING MARRIED!!! I think I had a hot > flash! I’ve been so busy with all this planning that I think I lost sight of > what I’m actually doing it for. All of a sudden I actually realized that all > those pretend weddings I had when I was five and all the times I fantasized > about my wedding day when I was kid were going to become a reality! I’m > totally excited now and feeling even more in love. =o) > Kim
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> I was laying in bed last night contemplating various tablecloth colors when > it suddenly dawned on me… I’M GETTING MARRIED!!! I think I had a hot > flash! I’ve been so busy with all this planning that I think I lost sight of > what I’m actually doing it for. All of a sudden I actually realized that all > those pretend weddings I had when I was five and all the times I fantasized > about my wedding day when I was kid were going to become a reality! I’m > totally excited now and feeling even more in love. =o) > Kim
You know, I’d envisioned my wedding dozens of times before it actually happened. And what happened wasn’t exactly like my visions at all (for one thing, way different church, parents deceased, etc), but it was good in its own way. The feelings that I expected to experience didn’t happen, but what I did feel was just as wonderful. And the nice thing is that that feeling of being "even more in love" has just gotten way better over the years. — aMAZon "It’s never too late to have a happy childhood."
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– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> I was laying in bed last night contemplating various tablecloth colors when > it suddenly dawned on me… I’M GETTING MARRIED!!! I think I had a hot > flash! I’ve been so busy with all this planning that I think I lost sight of > what I’m actually doing it for. All of a sudden I actually realized that all > those pretend weddings I had when I was five and all the times I fantasized > about my wedding day when I was kid were going to become a reality! I’m > totally excited now and feeling even more in love. =o) > Kim > You know, I’d envisioned my wedding dozens of times before it actually > happened. And what happened wasn’t exactly like my visions at all > (for one thing, way different church, parents deceased, etc), but > it was good in its own way. > The feelings that I expected to experience didn’t happen, but what > I did feel was just as wonderful. > And the nice thing is that that feeling of being "even more in love" > has just gotten way better over the years. > — > aMAZon > "It’s never too late to have a happy childhood."
Am I the only woman in the world who had never envisioned her wedding? Honestly, most of my friends had started planning their "dream" wedding when they were 6 years old. I never really thought about getting married until maybe a year after I started dating my fiance, and never even had a thought about the wedding until a month or so after we got engaged. I never really thought I’d ever get married, so it’s really all a surprise to me. As for the wedding, it took me quite some time to actually begin enjoying the preparations, and I still find it more of a hassle than a joy to plan. I really just want to be married. I’m looking forward more to being with the one person I’ve ever truly loved, than I am walking down the aisle of the church in my dress. It’s not the pomp and circumstance that I’m interested in as much as it is finally pledging my life to that one person. I guess I’m weird like that! shanihn
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I am happy for you. It is definitely an exciting time! It seems like yesterday that I got engaged (12/24/99) and now the wedding is only 7 months away. Just make sure that in the midst of it all, you do two things.. First off, never get so busy that you neglect your fiance! On those crazy days when you’re out for gown fittings and picking up bridesmaid dresses, he’s sort of left in the dust. Get him involved as much as possible.. The second thing is not to let anyone tell you how to run things. In-laws are specifically renowned for this Do what feels right and is the best for you and your fiance. Again, good luck! -Wav Girl @–>— Laura and Micah 9-15-01 – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> I was laying in bed last night contemplating various tablecloth colors when > it suddenly dawned on me… I’M GETTING MARRIED!!! I think I had a hot > flash! I’ve been so busy with all this planning that I think I lost sight of > what I’m actually doing it for. All of a sudden I actually realized that all > those pretend weddings I had when I was five and all the times I fantasized > about my wedding day when I was kid were going to become a reality! I’m > totally excited now and feeling even more in love. =o) > Kim
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> Am I the only woman in the world who had never envisioned her wedding? > Honestly, most of my friends had started planning their "dream" wedding > when they were 6 years old. I never really thought about getting > married until maybe a year after I started dating my fiance, and never > even had a thought about the wedding until a month or so after we got > engaged. I never really thought I’d ever get married, so it’s really > all a surprise to me.
I never dreamed of my wedding when I was 6 (or 16 for that matter). Perhaps it helped that before college I’d only been to 2 weddings in my life–most of my cousins on both parent’s sides are younger than I am, so there weren’t a lot of family weddings to attend. I started looking at wedding stuff way before we got engaged–probably after we’d been dating about 3 years or so–about the time I was absolutely certain that I wanted to marry FH….the engagement waited another 2 years for FH to be absolutely certain of the same thing One of my good friends from college got married between our sophmore and junior years, and I was one of her bridesmaids. That was my first realization that getting married meant planning a wedding and picking out dresses and all that. Yes, I realize that you can be married without all that, but it’s fun and I probably won’t get the chance to thow a big "ball" again (till perhaps I have a HF daughter getting married?). I started seriously looking into all kinds of wedding stuff about a year before we actually got engaged. I realized before that that I(we) would probably have to pay for all of the wedding ourselves, so I started looking into the costs of things. Some of my friends who were planning weddings were quite open about sharing costs (some completely unprompted, which was interesting…). Not long after I started my first "real" job, I started stashing away money to pay for the wedding and/or a house. I don’t think I’ve lost site of the impending marriage in the midst of the wedding planning. The fact that we’re going to be husband and wife just feels right–like when I put on "the dress" for the first time. It doesn’t feel unreal at all–in fact, I’m quite impatient for July to be here already I feel like this planning’s gone on forever (1 year 4 months by the day of the wedding), and I’m ready to be walking down the aisle instead of picking a florist. I’m starting to really envy my little sister and her "elopement" to the county courthouse (wearing a blue sundress, with a friend along as the photographer/witness), and no fuss, muss, matching colors or anythign Of course, she missed out on having the big party. It’s more important to us to have familiy and friends around us, and we really enjoy parties and dances, so the "big wedding" was definitely the way to go. If only I’d been able to talk FH into an October 2000 wedding (6 months instead of 1+ years)…. twinkle to ms 7/7/2001
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